Finding Joy in the Darkness

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A moment of pure joy.

This is what it feels like to be with someone who has known you since middle school – who knows your dreams, your struggles, your heart, and who always has your back.

Yesterday we got away from the heavy things happening in the world, and looked for simple joy and wonder at the Oregon coast. The day before, my best friend had been randomly attacked by someone driving down the road because she has a rainbow sticker on her car. The person screamed horrible, hateful things at her until she pulled off of the road.

What provokes people these days to be so outwardly and boldly hateful to others? This is a person who has spent her life helping others. Having a rainbow sticker on her car made her deserving of hate speech and threats?  The climate we are living in is causing this infection to spread and become more direct and vile. She was shaken up, but otherwise is okay.

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So much hatred, over this sticker.

We decided getting away for the day was the way to go and it was the right choice. We found agates, jasper, barking sea lions, and even these giant floating whales. Everywhere we walked, we found treasure and yes, so many heart signs that I lost count.

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I want to encourage you to take time away from whatever is weighing on you and look for joy in the simple and unexpected.

Call or write the person who gets you and spend some time catching up. If you don’t have that person, and many people don’t, comment here or message me. Talk about something good you saw or experienced, instead of just repeating the bad things happening around us.

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Let’s share more of what we see that makes us smile, or gives us a glimmer of hope, and create our own joy. How can we put more love out into the world, to minimize the random hatred and darkness that’s causing people to act like monsters?
We can change the tide if we try. Keep sharing the good. Keep being the good and showing others how we should be treating one another. This is how we lift one another up and keep going. ❤️💛💚💙💜

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You Are Magical

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Don’t lose sight of yourself, even when life takes you down side roads. Let go enough to learn what you’re supposed to, and find value and beauty in the detours, but never let it take away your magic.

Detours are where we find some of our best life lessons. The key is to learn how to flow with these “distractions”, and know that they’re happening for a reason.

Perhaps we are supposed to learn how to handle ourselves differently in stressful situations, or we are supposed to completely change direction with our lives and find our purpose where we least expected it. No matter how small or large, there is something to be learned in the “tricky” happenings in life.

I look at my cancer journey as something that has not only helped me find my purpose, but has had a ripple effect for others. If that is what needed to happen to bring about change, I can find peace in that. I will not allow myself to be angry and live in that space. Instead, I have let myself open up and I’ve discovered my personal magic.

It’s not an easy place to be in, and of course I wish things were different, but I am learning to be at peace with what I can and cannot control in life. That also allows me to focus on my purpose and not fear stepping out and walking through doorways that open up for me. I was always playing small and didn’t take opportunities that came my way. I let fear affect my life choices, and letting that go feels so darn good.

If my journey helps you step out onto your path in some way, I’ve fulfilled my purpose. If I share something that makes you laugh or cry, or think, I’ve fulfilled my purpose.

Don’t let yourself become lost in the things that happen to you. Remember that you are not what others have done to you. You are not what they say you are when they try to tear you down. You are not your bank account, your pant size, your family, or your chronic illness. You are only you, and that is magical. 💜✨🦄

Thank you to Amber Iberreche for the image and inspiring words.

Always Love You

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Today’s message. I looked down and this was there, telling me what to do.
Always love you.
Some days it’s difficult. Some days it’s easy. There have been days when it was impossible, and I couldn’t see past the pain, yet I am still here, with more hope and love in my heart than I’ve ever known. That’s because it was more painful to think about giving up. That’s it. I wasn’t willing to let go and managed to find that ray of light to hold on to.
We all have our personal trials and hardships. Some are visible, and some are not. Much of it is placed on us by others, but we need to find a way to rise above that.
We cannot change what we were born into, or what has happened to us at the hands of others. We need to find our value and want to do what we can to forgive those who have wronged us, so we can free ourselves. We can then move on to create change for ourselves, and those who are suffering, those whose struggles we know all too well.
If you can’t see past today, or can’t find a reason to love yourself, please hold on and know that you matter. You are not alone. If you need to, message me and know that you will be heard. Your words, your story, are safe with me.
We need to work together to create genuine connection, to create hope. It starts with seeing and listening to one another. From there, we can lift one another up with love and purpose.
What can you do today to take a step towards this? It can be as simple as getting out of bed and looking out the window. Feeding yourself something nourishing. Taking a walk outside. No one said it was easy, but it’s worth it. You are worth it. ❤️

The Missing Piece

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Copyright 2018 – Kelly Keigwin

“The wound is the place where the light enters you.” – Rumi

When you’re looking for that missing piece, the thing that will make you feel whole, complete, and happy, know that it’s there, waiting to be discovered. You may not see it today, but keep opening yourself to life and your journey, and you’ll find it.
This is what I’ve found through my journey – it’s you. It was me, the entire time, holding myself back from feeling at peace. The light, the joy, and the “missing” component is within you. Healing, finding peace within the chaos of life, and appreciating the privilege of whatever time we have here, lies within us.
No possession can give you that, no matter how much you collect or own. No matter what your status. No person can give us happiness, and once we see that, we can then walk into relationships and friendships without needing others to fulfill that role. Relationships then exist from a completely different place, one of selflessness, mutual love, and respect.
You are enough and you deserve to be happy. Please know that. ❤️

It’s Okay to Be Different

 

It’s okay to not be doing what everyone else is doing. It’s okay to not want the same things everyone else wants. It’s okay to live your life in the way that feels right to you.

Judgement, bullying, and responding to others without hearing what they’re saying is easy via social media. It makes us feel small and defeated. More of us feel like we are alone in the world than ever before.

We want to fit in and be accepted, and trying to make that happen in a world that screams for conformity forces our emotions down. It creates overwhelming emptiness, and a disconnect from our true feelings.

It causes us to create relationships based on false realities. This is one reason why we can so easily talk over and dismiss others. When you’re disconnected, you don’t empathize with others. You are able to name call, mock, and decide who is or isn’t worthy in your eyes. We need to change this, starting with ourselves.

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In this moment, quiet the voices around you. Tune out your to-do list, the television, the voice in your head telling you you’re not good enough. Give yourself the gift of ten minutes of “me time”. You don’t need to check your email or to see how many people liked your last post, to be happy or fulfilled. Just breathe and enjoy the moment. Think about something that gives you joy.

It’s not about buying things. It isn’t about promotions, money, or even control. It’s about listening to your gut and your heart. It’s about getting back to the wonder of simple things. It’s about what you tell yourself you don’t have time for in your daily life. Ask yourself this – What you would do if you didn’t have to worry about a paycheck? How would you invest the time you have on this planet?

That is your path, and it’s what we neglect when we get caught up in the expectations of our daily life. What would happen if you chose to slow down? To get off of the fast track? What if you let yourself play more? Rest more? Breathe and laugh more?

It’s okay to be different. We are caught up in the cycle of what we are told is acceptable, but when we quiet that voice, and tune into our inner calling, we find happiness. True joy and fulfillment lives there.

Be different. Be gloriously imperfect. Embrace it and let your light shine. The world is waiting to love you, just as you are.