Finding Joy in the Darkness

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A moment of pure joy.

This is what it feels like to be with someone who has known you since middle school – who knows your dreams, your struggles, your heart, and who always has your back.

Yesterday we got away from the heavy things happening in the world, and looked for simple joy and wonder at the Oregon coast. The day before, my best friend had been randomly attacked by someone driving down the road because she has a rainbow sticker on her car. The person screamed horrible, hateful things at her until she pulled off of the road.

What provokes people these days to be so outwardly and boldly hateful to others? This is a person who has spent her life helping others. Having a rainbow sticker on her car made her deserving of hate speech and threats?  The climate we are living in is causing this infection to spread and become more direct and vile. She was shaken up, but otherwise is okay.

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So much hatred, over this sticker.

We decided getting away for the day was the way to go and it was the right choice. We found agates, jasper, barking sea lions, and even these giant floating whales. Everywhere we walked, we found treasure and yes, so many heart signs that I lost count.

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I want to encourage you to take time away from whatever is weighing on you and look for joy in the simple and unexpected.

Call or write the person who gets you and spend some time catching up. If you don’t have that person, and many people don’t, comment here or message me. Talk about something good you saw or experienced, instead of just repeating the bad things happening around us.

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Let’s share more of what we see that makes us smile, or gives us a glimmer of hope, and create our own joy. How can we put more love out into the world, to minimize the random hatred and darkness that’s causing people to act like monsters?
We can change the tide if we try. Keep sharing the good. Keep being the good and showing others how we should be treating one another. This is how we lift one another up and keep going. ❤️💛💚💙💜

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You Are Magical

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Don’t lose sight of yourself, even when life takes you down side roads. Let go enough to learn what you’re supposed to, and find value and beauty in the detours, but never let it take away your magic.

Detours are where we find some of our best life lessons. The key is to learn how to flow with these “distractions”, and know that they’re happening for a reason.

Perhaps we are supposed to learn how to handle ourselves differently in stressful situations, or we are supposed to completely change direction with our lives and find our purpose where we least expected it. No matter how small or large, there is something to be learned in the “tricky” happenings in life.

I look at my cancer journey as something that has not only helped me find my purpose, but has had a ripple effect for others. If that is what needed to happen to bring about change, I can find peace in that. I will not allow myself to be angry and live in that space. Instead, I have let myself open up and I’ve discovered my personal magic.

It’s not an easy place to be in, and of course I wish things were different, but I am learning to be at peace with what I can and cannot control in life. That also allows me to focus on my purpose and not fear stepping out and walking through doorways that open up for me. I was always playing small and didn’t take opportunities that came my way. I let fear affect my life choices, and letting that go feels so darn good.

If my journey helps you step out onto your path in some way, I’ve fulfilled my purpose. If I share something that makes you laugh or cry, or think, I’ve fulfilled my purpose.

Don’t let yourself become lost in the things that happen to you. Remember that you are not what others have done to you. You are not what they say you are when they try to tear you down. You are not your bank account, your pant size, your family, or your chronic illness. You are only you, and that is magical. 💜✨🦄

Thank you to Amber Iberreche for the image and inspiring words.

Always Love You

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Today’s message. I looked down and this was there, telling me what to do.
Always love you.
Some days it’s difficult. Some days it’s easy. There have been days when it was impossible, and I couldn’t see past the pain, yet I am still here, with more hope and love in my heart than I’ve ever known. That’s because it was more painful to think about giving up. That’s it. I wasn’t willing to let go and managed to find that ray of light to hold on to.
We all have our personal trials and hardships. Some are visible, and some are not. Much of it is placed on us by others, but we need to find a way to rise above that.
We cannot change what we were born into, or what has happened to us at the hands of others. We need to find our value and want to do what we can to forgive those who have wronged us, so we can free ourselves. We can then move on to create change for ourselves, and those who are suffering, those whose struggles we know all too well.
If you can’t see past today, or can’t find a reason to love yourself, please hold on and know that you matter. You are not alone. If you need to, message me and know that you will be heard. Your words, your story, are safe with me.
We need to work together to create genuine connection, to create hope. It starts with seeing and listening to one another. From there, we can lift one another up with love and purpose.
What can you do today to take a step towards this? It can be as simple as getting out of bed and looking out the window. Feeding yourself something nourishing. Taking a walk outside. No one said it was easy, but it’s worth it. You are worth it. ❤️

The Missing Piece

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Copyright 2018 – Kelly Keigwin

“The wound is the place where the light enters you.” – Rumi

When you’re looking for that missing piece, the thing that will make you feel whole, complete, and happy, know that it’s there, waiting to be discovered. You may not see it today, but keep opening yourself to life and your journey, and you’ll find it.
This is what I’ve found through my journey – it’s you. It was me, the entire time, holding myself back from feeling at peace. The light, the joy, and the “missing” component is within you. Healing, finding peace within the chaos of life, and appreciating the privilege of whatever time we have here, lies within us.
No possession can give you that, no matter how much you collect or own. No matter what your status. No person can give us happiness, and once we see that, we can then walk into relationships and friendships without needing others to fulfill that role. Relationships then exist from a completely different place, one of selflessness, mutual love, and respect.
You are enough and you deserve to be happy. Please know that. ❤️

We Are Your Neighbors

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In a time when our government has decided it’s okay for first responders and medical providers to allow people to go untreated and die, on the grounds that their religious beliefs come first, we need to examine this statement.

Would this be happening if we took the time to realize we are all human beings, with hopes and feelings and loved ones?
If those cheering for this legislation knew the actual people who will be turned away, could they still look them in the eye and be okay with this?

I am one of “those people”.

I could be denied medical treatment and be allowed to die, if a first responder decides to use these protections to make me wait for someone who will help me.
Children of LGBTQ parents could be refused care (and have been).

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My wife and I can be denied medical care under the new government mandate.

What is so wrong with this country that fear and disconnection has brought us to this place?
It has become so easy to judge others from our living rooms, and from behind our keyboards, that we now have empowered a government that is advocating for the legalized genocide of those seen as unworthy by one religious group.
Think about that for a moment.

We have to do better.
We have to bring back connection, love, and hope.
Get out and talk with your neighbors.
Make a kind gesture towards someone every day.
Many people are hurting right now and the answer is inclusion, not exclusion.
We must do more, do better, for ourselves and our neighbors.

I am relating this back to myself, but in reality there are far more vulnerable people already suffering from discrimination where they live. I am speaking up for them and hoping if I’ve inspired you in any way, or made you smile, you will see why we have to stop this kind of discriminatory behavior.

It’s time to take back our future with a movement of listening to one another, respect, unconditional love, and empathy.
Get out from behind your keyboard and volunteer somewhere. Speak up for those who need help. Connect with humanity and the struggles we are all enduring.

Let fear go and embrace compassionate living.

It’s Okay to Be Different

 

It’s okay to not be doing what everyone else is doing. It’s okay to not want the same things everyone else wants. It’s okay to live your life in the way that feels right to you.

Judgement, bullying, and responding to others without hearing what they’re saying is easy via social media. It makes us feel small and defeated. More of us feel like we are alone in the world than ever before.

We want to fit in and be accepted, and trying to make that happen in a world that screams for conformity forces our emotions down. It creates overwhelming emptiness, and a disconnect from our true feelings.

It causes us to create relationships based on false realities. This is one reason why we can so easily talk over and dismiss others. When you’re disconnected, you don’t empathize with others. You are able to name call, mock, and decide who is or isn’t worthy in your eyes. We need to change this, starting with ourselves.

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In this moment, quiet the voices around you. Tune out your to-do list, the television, the voice in your head telling you you’re not good enough. Give yourself the gift of ten minutes of “me time”. You don’t need to check your email or to see how many people liked your last post, to be happy or fulfilled. Just breathe and enjoy the moment. Think about something that gives you joy.

It’s not about buying things. It isn’t about promotions, money, or even control. It’s about listening to your gut and your heart. It’s about getting back to the wonder of simple things. It’s about what you tell yourself you don’t have time for in your daily life. Ask yourself this – What you would do if you didn’t have to worry about a paycheck? How would you invest the time you have on this planet?

That is your path, and it’s what we neglect when we get caught up in the expectations of our daily life. What would happen if you chose to slow down? To get off of the fast track? What if you let yourself play more? Rest more? Breathe and laugh more?

It’s okay to be different. We are caught up in the cycle of what we are told is acceptable, but when we quiet that voice, and tune into our inner calling, we find happiness. True joy and fulfillment lives there.

Be different. Be gloriously imperfect. Embrace it and let your light shine. The world is waiting to love you, just as you are.

Supporting Yourself Nutritionally with DoTERRA – Step One – Lifelong Vitality Pack

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These supplements are key to my survival.
People talk about supplements all of the time, but there is a major difference between brands. You can choose to believe me or you can believe science, or you can listen to both and make your own decisions from there.

I started taking this combination of supplements after my first go around with cancer. I was depleted, foggy, toxic, had no energy, and wasn’t sleeping well. I would not be able to fall asleep until after 3am and no matter how much I slept, never felt rested. I could barely get out of bed or off of the couch, let alone feel motivated to do anything productive.

I started on these supplements as the skeptic I am and every day felt the same as I had before. I’d tell myself they weren’t working, because, you know, we all want a magic pill that works immediately.

After 3+ weeks, I woke up one day and did my usual move to the sofa to watch Netflix. I realized I wanted to get up. I wanted to go outside. I did go outside and I sat on the deck listening to the world around me. It was a small shift, but it was wonderful. The next day, I felt the same. After a few more days I decided I wanted to make something. I started painting on a few things I had laying around.

This pattern continued until I reached the level of wanting to create and interact with the world more. I began to realize I was thinking more clearly. I wanted to eat more food. I was beginning to feel tired around midnight and sleeping deeper. My body aches were lessening. My feelings of depression lessened. Basically, I was given my life back.

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At my oncologists office, or when I spoke with others who had experience with cancer treatment, they couldn’t believe how good I looked and how quickly I was moving on to new things. I kept hearing it takes a year to detox after chemotherapy, yet I was thriving after a few months. The only thing I did was to add these supplements and a few other essential oils to my daily routine.

I can tell people how my life has changed and they can choose whether or not to believe me. If you know me, you know I am not someone who tries to convince people to buy things unless I’ve been convinced. If you don’t know me, I will tell you I am a diabetic who has survived both a major head on collision, and chemotherapy. I’m not some super healthy human specimen, who defied the odds. I am someone who was desperate to feel better and found something that works. It isn’t one magic pill. It’s a whole food, sustainably sourced, bioavailable, nutritionally balanced set of supplements that feed your body what it needs to function at optimal levels.

Now, if I run out and stop taking them for more than 3 days, I feel the difference. I don’t sleep as well and my aches and pains come back. As soon as I start them again, I get back on track. I am not taking ibuprofen like I was (3 times per day) for the residual issues from my car accident. I also took these my second time through chemotherapy, and am convinced they kept me nutritionally balanced when I often didn’t want to eat more than a protein shake. The systems of the body are supported and nutritional needs are met, even when you can’t take the time to eat well. These supplements make up for the lack of nutrients in the average diet, as well as what we are lacking in the soil we grow food in today. I don’t know anyone who can’t benefit from taking them.

If you want to feel better, support your body and brain health to the best of your ability, and are sick of over the counter medications that are bad for you and don’t fix anything, try these supplements. Invest in living the best life you can by loving your body enough to try these for 60 days. Two months is when your body is said to be using the supplements at their optimal level. Aren’t you worth that?

Please ask me if you have questions. I’m so glad the science is coming out about how great this product is, and proving the results I achieved are consistent.

Find the most recent study results here.

You can purchase them here.

You Are Beautiful

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A thought for today, and every day.

When you open your heart and share who you really are with the world, you will find connection with those who resonate with you. This is where you will find genuine beauty and happiness. They are found in letting go of society’s expectations and embracing the truth of who you are.
The pressure to conform makes us harden and protect ourselves from being different or standing out. It’s crippling and kills our opportunity for happiness and self-love. How can you experience real joy when you’ve buried who you truly are?
We are all shining stars, and are interconnected with those around us. When you let go of hiding, hating, shame, and acting out of fear, you soften and people see who you really are. That’s what true beauty is – being authentically you and shining brightly in a dark world. Step out and be seen. Know that you will find those genuinely attracted to who you are through your vulnerability.
What steps would you like to take to move in this direction? What is stifling your voice? When you look at people you admire, what attracts you to them?
Confidence? Bravery? The things they create or the words they say? That they’re not afraid to admit their flaws? Or talk about tough things honestly?
You are seeing yourself reflected in them. Embrace those qualities in yourself and let that guide you into using your voice to inspire others in your own way. You have that within you.
You are beautiful.
It’s not about makeup, your weight/body type, the things you own, or the right clothing/styling. It’s about loving yourself enough to be who you really are, and to say what you need to say, without fear of repercussions of others. Would Beyoncé or even Brené Brown be where they are if they hadn’t stepped out and allowed themselves to be seen?
I’m 50. It’s never too late to start this process. Take baby steps if you have to, but do this, for yourself and those who are waiting for you to connect with and inspire them to do the same. Let your beauty and light shine through.

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Let Your Freak Flag Fly

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This is the reality of trying to take a selfie outside of your childhood home, in the desert sun. My eyes watered for ten minutes after I attempted to get this shot.

I love seeing outtakes and real life. We are all so busy trying to look like whatever we want to convey on social media, we often miss the moments of seeing one another being imperfect.
Real is charming, unexpected, and rare.

I admit that I delete the photos I don’t like of myself, but then, as a photographer who documents life, I have taken so many of myself, it would be a bit crazy, and narcissistic, to keep everything I shoot.

The point is this – trying to be so perfect that you’re no longer yourself is harmful. We are all flawed. Perfection is a myth. The more I open my heart and show myself to the world, the more I get back in return. Don’t be afraid to do the same. The world needs you, and your voice.

When we think of icons – Maya Angelou, Beyoncé, David Bowie, Bill Murray, Betty White, Madonna (for example) – how do you think they became iconic? They stepped out, took chances, were authentic to themselves, and blew us all away.

There is a reason people have such strong responses to certain individuals. It’s what we see of ourselves, and who we want to be, or what we want to say, that’s shines through them.

Dare to be you, to use your voice, to express yourself in a society that wants you to fit into its mold. Be weird, imperfect, and different. That’s where greatness lies – in digging in and figuring out who you really are at your core, and being unafraid of what others will think of you. I guarantee you will find more admirers than haters when you show yourself to the world.

We are waiting to love you, just as you are. Show us what you’ve got. ❤️

Gratitude

Most people are celebrating Thanksgiving today. I’ve been reflecting on my Native ancestors and in honoring them, I decided to live today in a place of gratitude. I enjoyed the morning with some of my local community, hugged a number of people who mean a lot to me, gifted essential oils to a friend, had a conversation with my brother about our mom’s health, and now am watching movies and working on pottery. Along the way I also messaged a few people to tell them I love them and appreciate them, and shared a blend of oils I researched for emotional support with others in my life.

I use essential oils every day. I only use one brand, because as a cancer survivor, it’s very important that I know what I put on or in my body. I will not use synthetic products if I can avoid them (in shampoos, lotions, soaps, and yes, scents I wear). I’ve done my research about where different companies source their oils from, who has consistent medicinal value and quality, and which company is not only environmentally responsible (they don’t take more than the plants and land can come back from) and socially responsible (they work with local farmers and families in each region they harvest oils from and are investing in improving every one of these areas for the people who live there), These things matter.

If you’d like to learn more about them, please visit this site. I am also happy to share information and research I’ve discovered and studied. They are the only company that John’s Hopkins, Vanderbilt, Sutter Heath, and other medical and cancer research facilities will work with, because of their quality, consistency, and ethics. I will be sharing more about my journey with the oils and how I’ve improved my health journey, and how we created a miracle using western, eastern, homeopathic, and natural medicine together.

My gift to you all today is this diffuser blend I created last night. It is meant to create a space that will allow you to sit in gratitude for the things in your life – large and small.

What do you have to be thankful for today? What brings joy into your life or allows you to give that gift to others? From having a roof over our heads, to knowing where our next meal is coming from, to a pet that gives us unconditional love, to friends and family who enrich our lives, we all have something to be grateful for.

Gratitude for what we do have is the first step in receiving the things we want more of. Today, or any day you want to reflect on things in your life, and open your heart to gratitude, this blend is a great one to diffuse. 💚

Emotions associated with these oils –

Lime – The ultimate gratitude oil. It helps you begin to appreciate even the little things.

Wild Orange – Helps us taste the sweetness of life. Reminds us that there is much to live for and supports gratitude and abundance.

Frankincense – Helps you see your beauty and value to the world.

Douglas Fir – Teaches us to learn from and value others’ experiences, especially from our elders.

Arborvitae – Helps us find balance in our lives, to know what we should hold close or release. Encourages peaceful surrender, relaxed grace, and trust in the flow of life.

Patchouli – Brings you into the present moment and deepens appreciation for what you have.

If you’d like to connect about essential oils and how they can help support you physically and emotionally, please connect with me. I’m happy to share what I used through treatment, and beyond.